So I need some help. This problem always crops up around the holidays if for no other reason than I can't be in two places at once. (All Time-Turner jokes aside)

Currently I'm not speaking with my dad, because of the entire drama with him 1. forgetting my birthday 2. not acknowledging he was in the wrong both in forgetting and when he 3. sent me a two sentence long email regarding my birthday. I know its wrong to hold a grudge but I am my father's daughter and neither one of us is going to back down: I don't play dead for anyone, especially not my dad. And he's too stubborn to admit that he did anything wrong.

This lack of communication survived Thanksgiving: he was passive about the entire thing (while blatantly avoiding giving any signs of submission) and I pretended he wasn't worthy of existance. But now Christmas is coming up, which is sort of a bigger deal.

I don't want to not be there with Cali and Dalton and (and it pains me to admit it) Tara. That's not cool and it doesn't seem like a very responsible thing to do. But I also refuse to make up and play nice with dad. I don't want to cause another rift in our family ties with my stubborn feud. But I want to be there.

Also there's the factor that is my Roseville family. We always spend Christmas with Jim's family because their close and their Nico's family and such. But I'm not obligated per say to go. The only person that would be mad would be Jim and maybe mom. All the same I don't want to stress anyone out.

Ultimately I know the 'decision is mine' and all that crap' but...I just got like three emails from different family members asking me if I was going to be be with them and what I was bringing to dinner and such.

HELP.
HELP.